If you’ve ever called your significant other at the office to tell him that he had to rush home and skip poker night with his buddies because you had a temperature spike, or if you’ve rushed into the living room, frantically waving a positive ovulation predictor strip in the air then you can relate. You’ve gotten the act of baby dancing down to a science. Foreplay is non-existent and your bedroom moves are purely mechanical. You’re trying to achieve a goal and sex is simply the means to an end.

Face it: You’re in a sexual rut and you feel like there is nothing you can do to get out of it. You’ve become a slave to your cycle and your sex life has suffered as a consequence. The Big O now refers to that tiny window each month when your fertility monitor tells you to get busy. But, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way! There are plenty of ways to put the emphasis back on you and your partner.